NICE GUYS FINISH LAST?

First, click this link to watch the video for 'Nice guys' by NIGAHIGA



Although I quite appreciate the humour which the song conveys, it has got me wondering about the reality of the situation which is represents. Do nice guys really finish last? Is it truly because they are nice guys that they inadvertently end up finish last? 


These lyrics have been reiterated in countless movies in which the 'nice guy next door' is dumped for the 'bad guy' who is more often than not depicted as a player whose supposed 'cool' personality ultimately attracts the girl. 


So why is it that the girl always seems to fall for the bad guy who clearly doesn't have her best interests in mind rather than the good guy who obviously cares about her and would want nothing more than to make her happy? Is this an accurate description of reality?


It has been my experience that it is deeply rooted in human nature to want a challenge. It seems that people only want what they can't have. Anything which is seemingly within reach is no longer attractive. Nice guys are frequently portrayed as boring and unremarkable. Based on this, it seems that because the nice guy is perceived as easily accessible and in crude terms 'always available' to the girl, she will likely lose interest in his advances. 

On the other hand, the bad guy player type is not considered emotionally forthcoming and so the girl will likely  choose to pursue the possibility of getting the bad guy to commit to her.


It is in this context that the good guy is said to 'finish last'.


Now don't get me wrong, not all nice guys 'finish last'. There are girls who appreciate an honest, caring attitude. Most especially those girls who have previously been vulnerable to the 'bad guy syndrome' and have clearly learned their lesson.


The lyrics of the song are as follows: 


"Nice guys finish last,
That's why I'll treat you like trash,
It's not what I really wanna do.
But, you only date bad guys so,
I'll give it my best try to,
Treat you the way you want me to.
I never open a door, 
or pull out a chair.
You can tell me how your day was 
but I don't really care.
And if you ever get cold, 
you'll just have to hack it,
Cause I'd be cold too
If I gave you my jacket.
Like WHOA, you ain't sittin up front,
Front is for the homies you can sit in the trunk.
I never answer my phone,
Whenever you call it
And when the waiter brings the bill
I never reach for my wallet."

I opine that while it may hurt the nice guy's feelings to have been rejected by the girl, it does not pay for the good guy to change his attitude and become a 'bad guy'. Not all good girls become susceptible to the bad guys charms and so developing an ungentlemanly attitude will only drive the good ladies away.


So enjoy the song, but keep in mind that not all good guys lose the girl. In fact, nice guys end up with the nice girls!


Till my next blog post!
Get some pie!